I Want My Ex Back They Say, Them Stop Breaking Promises
Keeping promises is one of the most important things in any relationship. Maybe you have broken some in the past, but in order to have more opportunities to recover the love of your ex, you should be more “mature”.
You Must Fulfill Your Promises
In any relationship whether it is in business, in dealing with service companies, children or anyone, we must fulfill our promises. When we make a promise, we keep the promise, no matter how small. If, we say, I will stop for bread on my way home we stop for bread. When we say, I will clean up the garage tomorrow then we do it.
When we say, I will be home by six then we are home at six. When we tell a bill collector the check is in the mail, then the check is in the mail. When we say, I will…then we do it or we go back to the person and honestly inform the person we cannot keep our promise and the reason we cannot keep it. Otherwise, to say the least we are lying and we are a person who lacks integrity.
But Those Little Things Are Important?
You see sometimes we are inclined to believe these little things are not very important, but they are important and each time we fail, to keep these little promises we weaken our ability to keep promises of greater importance. “Little things mean a lot,” is not a simple cliché it is a truth, a proof of love a symbol of trustworthiness.
In assessing the cause for a breakup with a wife or girlfriend, it is important to own the lies told during the relationship. Size is negligent, a lie is a lie, a promise is a promise and an unfulfilled promise is an unfulfilled promise. In the case of marriage, two people make a promise called a vow stating, I will love, honor and provide for you in sickness and in health… The question is how did you do this? The question is not, how well did you do this? You either, kept the promise or you did not keep the promise. Each little broken promise put a crack in this big promise. Write a list of all the ways you kept this promise. Be honest, no excuses, no blaming the ex-wife, just answer the question.
It Is A Good Idea To Ask For Forgiveness
Write your ex a letter in which you identify all the ways you failed to keep your promise. Ask for forgiveness. Make no promises and ask nothing from her accept forgiveness. Remember you are assessing you, not your ex-wife. Do not allow yourself the right to blame her for anything at this point. The only role she plays in this process is forgiveness or non-forgiveness.
Reconciliation is a change of heart and mind, a choice to give and accept forgiveness and this shoulg be the basis of a renewed relationship.
