How To Win Back Your Ex Wife – Is Self Respect Really Important?
Self respect is one thing that your partner demand from you every time. Sometimes we lower our self respect, creating problems in our relationships.
The Most Common Cause of Failures
It matters not how long a relationship has lasted, there is pain when it fails and a basic concern in a failed relationship lies in the pain. No one enjoys pain and if, someone does, then the person has a more serious problem than a broken relationship. Lack of respect for self is a common cause of failure in most relationships. What is self-respect and how does this relate to a broken connection between two people?
Respect means to feel or show honor or esteem for and hold another in high regard. How do we feel or show honor or esteem for, and hold in high regard the person who we are? Far too often, our failure to do this lies in the fact we never give our inner self any attention. We respond to our physical pain and discomfort, but we often neglect, push away or ignore our inner feelings of pain. We turn away from our self and deny we possess certain vulnerabilities, within the core of our being.
We are a composite made up of a body, soul and spirit, and when we neglect any part of this composite, we cannot grow to our greatest potential. Before we are capable of respecting, honoring, showing esteem for and holding other people in high regard, we must treat our self in the same manner. To quote a well- known expression, “we cannot give what we do not have.”
This statement is true in relationships, because we cannot bring into a relationship something we do not have. We can only bring into a relationship those qualities, which we knowingly own. If, we lack ownership of the values, which guide us to respect the personhood of another, then, we will fail to develop and hold onto healthy relationships. Failure often comes from lack of knowledge. If, we do not know what respect for another is because, we do not know what respect for self is, then, we will fail as a person capable of sustaining a relationship.
You Need To Be Aware Of Your Qualities
Suggestion: Look inside yourself and examine those qualities, which you believe enable you to be a person worthy of giving and accepting love. Write down all the qualities you possess, which you believe you have to offer to another person. What are your spiritual gifts, those gifts, which are measurable such as honesty, integrity, compassion, patience, perseverance, justice, prudence, sincerity and forgiveness of self and others.
How can these gifts help you get your ex-wife back, well they cannot, but you as a man with such qualities and values, possess the power within to do the right thing, at the right time. That man is a man your ex can fall in love with again!
